Military dating advice
While we, of course, always love to hear from those who are married to members of the military, this time we wanted to hear from those who have not yet said, “I Do”!Having a relationship with someone in the military can present many challenges (married or not) BUT there are also incredible blessings and lessons learned. Sometimes, those of us who have been married forever (or maybe it just seems that way) can forget how it felt to be brand new to the lifestyle that comes as a part of falling in love with someone in uniform. I'm a freshman in college, but I want to transfer to a school near where he will be stationed.Right now, he doesn't have any answers yet about where he will be stationed.I can't believe the Army won't keep everyone informed instead of having everyone guessing about their future.
There is a mystique about dating them and we who love them can't wait to marry them. It's important that you are knowledgeable about both of them.
But figuring out who they are and what makes them tick is part of dating a service member. Military men can't stand demanding girlfriends (or boyfriends) because they can't make any promises about their future plans, especially in the first two years of their careers. Give the relationship at least a year before making plans for your future. Your anxiety and fears about his job will decrease as your knowledge increases because you will understand a lot of what is expected of him. If your relationship moves to marriage, you will need to be independent and have much self-determination.
How to be a good military girlfriend or boyfriend is of the utmost importance. Don't overthink this, just try to be available when they are and make your plans flexible. You may feel like you are leaving your family and close friends behind.
Here are a few of my tips to be a better girlfriend or boyfriend: Be flexible with your time. However, you are embarking on a great journey of self-discovery where you will learn about strength you did not know you had. Take time to cultivate your own dreams and passion.
If you don't, your life could be filled with resentment and regret. You definitely want to meet other military spouses, partners, fiancées and Milsos.
These sisters and brothers have been making it work for years. You can also gain a lot from the advice and experience of others.