Dating 4 years younger
In my online dating profile preferences, I’d always make the age range between “my age 1” and 45, as if going out with someone my age or one year younger were some kind of abhorrent crime.
He has this wild amount of energy, which I capitalize on, and which makes me less of an old-ass hermit cat lady. Women have been dating younger men since the dawn of time, I’m sure. I noticed that I stopped referring to him by his nickname and pointing out our age difference, and with those walls down, I was able to admit that this had become an honest-to-goodness relationship.When I first started dating this delighting younger man (who is now my boyfriend), I found myself calling him by a nickname to my friends and using this weird, coy affectation, because “it’s not serious, he’s younger, he’s in school, and what do we have in common anyway? But as I got to know him more and more, my feelings for him intensified and I realized this wasn’t just a Mrs. So I thought about why, even though I was/am happy, did it feel like I’m getting away with something? My suspicion is that it’s because we are afraid to be made happy by something that’s out of the norm.This is only tangentially related, but just think about sexual kinks (stay with me here).They’re called kinks because they’re a bend in the straight line of normal.We hide them and at some point we may admit them to our partners, but we don’t wear them on our sleeves, even though they satisfy something in us and make us happy.