Articles on older women dating younger men
In the early 2000s, the Internet had been redefining the idea of romance.In India, many such intimacies began to form at the cyber cafes neatly tucked inside bustling lanes.It was in one such caf in Mumbai that Mona Srivastava (name changed)would meet Bala Jain.Mona, new to the world of emails, had just opened her first Hotmail account and often found herself struggling to remember how it worked.Bala, who would visit the caf often to edit his films (this was the time when digital was replacing analog), was only too happy to help.Technical enquiries made way for philosophical ruminations.Several conversations and coffee breaks later, Mona and Bala realised what was brewing between them was something more than fondness."I still remember a time when I called him over for lunch. Overcoming her personal inhibitions, Mona finally consented to the marriage.
As attraction blossomed into love, the M-word started doing the rounds of their conversation. "I will take care of you in your old age," he'd often joke.
Today, the couple has been married for 17 years and have a son.
Not too long ago, an older woman in a relationship with a younger man made for a fantasy that had better chances of playing out smoothly in one's imagination rather than in reality. The answers lie in a clinical breakdown of notions that were once cited to make a case against such relationships.
Today, several layers have been added to the understanding of such relationships, with more women choosing younger companions and vice-versa. Creating the stereotype Until two decades ago, says Tara Wyne, clinical director at Lighthouse Arabia, an older woman pursuing a relationship with a younger man was seen as unbecoming, even shameful.
"The practice was almost seen as if she were preying on someone vulnerable and indeed not abiding by societal rules.
Older women aren't necessarily meant to be actively engaging in non-platonic relationships; if they aren't attached by a certain age, then they must accept rather than seek a partnership with a younger man." Popular culture often tends to define the indefinable, thereby simplifying what need not be simplified.